How To Fill Up Your Online Profile
When you're single and ready to go out and explore the online dating scene, one of the things you might have difficulties with is writing up your profile. What do you write about? How do you deal with "flaws" like being divorced or having some serious illness?
Here's how you might be able to shine some light on "shortcomings" you may have and maybe turn them into selling points as you join the online dating world.
You don't have a job
Many people have at some point had to deal with being jobless especially with this recession that doesn't seem to go away. Still, being unemployed is something we don't care to mention in our online profiles. The best thing to do is to describe what you have done for a living even if you're not doing that at the moment. When you actually meet someone in person, then you have the chance to explain that you do your job as a freelancer or that you were recently laid off. Who knows? Your date might even be your connection to your next job!
You're divorced
Just say you're single. Half of all single people these days have been through a divorce anyway. Clicking the "divorced" box under the status options will immediately bring up questions of why, whose fault was it, how many kids you have and a host of others you might not feel comfortable about. Again, the best time to mention being divorced is on the first date and then immediately play it down. Say something that things just didn't work out as you and your ex initially planned and that you both agreed to go your separate ways.
You're a single parent
Be honest about this and be proud of it. Say something like 'I am the happy father of three kids'. That immediately makes people who are interested in having kids in their own future see you in a good light and feel it may be worth their time to really get to know you. If you're filling up an online questionnaire, you're probably not going to hear from people who have no interest in having children anyway, so there's not much to explain then.
You work really long hours
Don't say that you're a "workaholic." Try phrases like "I work hard, and I enjoy my job," "I'm ambitious and focused," and "I travel for business and love going to new places to appreciate the cultural differences." That way it's out in the open that you put in long hours at your job and that you are happy about it. Anyone your profile attracts will then have considered this characteristic of yours before they even try getting in touch with you.
You're not physically ideal
You are overweight, or you are bald, or your hair is gray. Try to put humor into this. Say that you have a literally well-rounded personality for instance. Or that your head now requires minimum maintenance. This will give others the impression that you are comfortable with who you are. If you can't make a joke out of it, just be honest. Try posting a recent picture (taken in the last month or so). The replies you get will be from people who are really interested in who you are not in spite of, but rather, because of your physical attributes.
You've got a health condition or disability
Always describe physical impairments in terms of what you have been doing to overcome them. Show other people that you're not about to let some condition limit what you can do to have a happy life.
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